Cheering Section

I read a book not too long ago that stated that friends in your life should be in your "cheering section" and if they aren't then you need to "bench" them.  Basically friends should be happy for you and supporting you and if they aren't, then you don't need them in your life.  This really didn't resonate with me until recently. Due to some incidents, I got to thinking about the people in my life that I consider friends and whether they are in my "cheering section" or not.

Dave & I have been trying to get pregnant for almost a year now (yikes!).  We found out the other day that a close friend of ours is pregnant and I am so excited and happy for them.  Yes, Dave & I have struggled with conceiving but I can still be happy for someone else.  To me that is what a friend is suppose to do.  A friend is suppose to be support you during the good, the bad and all the in between.  They are not suppose to be bitter, angry,  or jealous.  They support you and are happy for you.  They do not take your triumph as their failure.  Friends are suppose to be in your "cheering section". 

When I thought about it, I found that some of the people that I have considered friends are not really in my "cheering section".  Rather than supporting me and being happy for me, they put me down, talk about me behind my back and try to make me feel bad about who I am and what I have.   I realized that if these friends aren't in my "cheering section" then I really do not need them in my life.